Why do married people pretend to say yes i love you so much and i promise to never apart each other?

but today the most married people wanted divorce.

Why do married people pretend to say yes i love you so much and i promise to never apart each other?phantom of the opera

Because the reality is that MARRIAGE is hard work...

Like any mechanical system.... it requires work and regular maintenance

Like any living thing.... it needs to be fed and nurtured.

Most people don't get that... and end up with:

AUTOS in the JUNK YARD and

Dead plants.

Why do married people pretend to say yes i love you so much and i promise to never apart each other?listen to opera opera theater

because they got married for the good, once the bad comes, they are out of there
Because alot of times, people don't know how much hard work a marriage can be when they are going into it. They find it easier to get a divorce than to work out any issues together as a partnership. They can begin to blame each other for any problems they may encounter, and begin to hate each other. It's so sad that the divorce rate is so high.
I think that your looking at life through some pretty narrow minded glasses. Do you really think that you can speak for every married person?

I don't think that most of the married people that I know do not want to get a divorce. They would like to continue being married and live happily ever after. The problem is trying to figure out how to get that done.
Some people have their own way of crazy thinking about how they do things. Some people are just shallow like that, that's why you have to take time to get to know someone.
you always live in the moment
for dramatic affect
Sounds good
Because at the time they mean it.
Because they have no idea what marriage is or how to exist in one. Their expectations are unrealistic. They want wine and roses all the time and think that they will never get annoyed with their spouses, or disagree, or have money problems and when they do, instead of realizing this is normal and try to resolve the problems, they decide its too hard and the marriage is over. Love, real or pretend is not the only reason people get married,just gotta be real about it. I think people love each other when they marry they just have no skills or real sense of what commitment is.
I'm sorry but I don't agree with you.

I think if two mature adults who love and respect each other promise to "love and stay together", they usually do.

You can't speak for most married people - you can only speak for yourself. I'm sorry if that's what you believe.
Sometimes people just grow apart and never think about what made them attracted to this person in the first place it had to be something special about that person. That's why married people have to work on keeping ther lite lit.
Not every couple do dear Heart. Married people meant every word when they told their partner before they got married and promised each other a lot of things. With time and experiences, often, one of them has cheated or is bored with a relationship that is in stagnation. They need action, different experiences, exploration of new horizons. It does not mean they do not love each other anymore. Boredom killed their passion and without communications, it lead to the inevitable divorce.
You sometimes say it to keep yourself out of trouble! Listen to the words of Extreme's More than Words it will give you a lot to think about.
Because at that moment in their lives, they are blinded by love for each other. They don't realize until later on that there are only two things for certain in life. Taxes and death. Love is not a thing for certainty. It is what you make it. It only last as long as the spark stays lit. People should never vow love for each other until death does them apart. Sometimes death out lives the marriage, and the love.
i dont think they pretend. most people really DO mean it at the time. of course that changes with time lol
It's the lack of commitment. The committment is what keeps you together when the love is at it's lowest points. The good news it, love will climb again higher than ever before and that is the reward for having the commitment.
I am not to sure on that answer. I know that when I tell my husband I love you it is at the right times. Like when we are leaving each other for the day, we say I love you.. But we do not go around in stores saying "oh baby I love you!!! I miss you pookie pooo" lol It is just I love you (insert name) and that is that. So maybe the people who try to hard are the ones who fall apart faster.
im sure they didnt know they were gonna get divorced when they were getting married
Most people don't go into a marriage thinking they're going to divorce. And if they're pretending to mean they love each other, they deserve the heartache they would get. I'm a firm believer any marriage can be saved, people just want to give up on and not fight for it, which is a very sad thing.
I'm pretty sure at the time of marriage, neither one is thinking of divorce, or even considering that as an option. ( Their not "pretending", their just ignorant, have no idea of what their about to step foot into)

People live in the moment, oftentimes making "on the spur of the moment"/ spontaneous decsions, not realizing what may result from it- the aftermath- so to speak..

Once reality hits them, its up to them to then make the decsion of whether or not to stick to their vows and both committ to making it work, and communicate with one another especailly during the hard times %26amp; not just give up.

It takes two to make it work. If one is faltering/ one isn't honest with their spouse and most importantly themself, the marriage will fail.